But is this a trend that could change the very nature of romance and turn long-term commitment into a thing of the past? There is striking evidence to suggest that the web is causing social change.Traditionally, women might have had one or two boyfriends before getting married; now, they are encouraged to date lots of people in a quest to find a perfect partner.When Andy graduated from Yale law school in January 1964, the young couple celebrated with a trip to Europe.But when they were staying in a small inn in Florence, Italy, they met what "Just Desserts" described as a 'handsome young Englishman' in the hotel bar and drank with him.A little tipsy by the end of the night, Andy wanted to go to bed, but Martha didn't.'Upset and angry, Andy went to bed alone,' Oppenheimer wrote, 'while Martha went off with her new friend. How could you forget this or that."'Her manner with Andy became the source of much stress and anxiety and anger.
Since he was already established in his career, the plan was for me to move to him; however, when I was offered a job at my current high school, I knew I wouldn't be moving out East. I guess I'm what Neal Samudre, in his post "5 Reasons Why I Got Engaged Before 23," calls someone who waited to get all her "ducks in a row." My career was more important than a man. He's right, but I never once remember fighting about money. Perhaps that's sounds unromantic, but, now, with a career, a home, kids, I realize even more how important a partner is. In many ways, I would have loved -- at 23 -- to have a man like Samudre express his undying love for me. That's the want-to-be romantic-37-year-old me talking. The 23-year-old me would have thought he was a bit crazy. To say at 23 that you know how you will feel about love is, as one of Samudre's commenters called, "twenty-something hubris." Things will change. My husband likes to remind me that we didn't have any money when we were newly married because I was in graduate school. I wanted to meet new people and date different men and find a life partner. If we're paying an hour for a babysitter, we're not going to see a movie, but I digress. There is, unfortunately and fortunately, more to life than love. Maybe as a woman, I see this differently, but I wasn't about to give up my career for love. So, after years of dating and failing, I did get engaged and married at 30. Here are five reasons why I waited (with apologies to Samudre): 1.